Attractive Body Language: 6 Body Gestures

Does it cost you to attract people and you can not get them to notice you? Most likely your body is sending inadequate signals. In this video I show you 6 keys of attractive body language, to improve your charisma, gain influence and boost your self-confidence in the process.

The History of Body Language in a Few Seconds

A long time ago, when we were more like monkeys than we are today, there were no words.

We communicated with the body language that was the means that mother nature gave us to understand each other, understand what was happening in our environment and identify possible threats to survive, which together with conserving the species, are our two great purposes.

Body language allowed us not only to make sure that the other monkey was not going to attack, but also helped us understand that it was legit. And that interaction, in an environment of security and trust, could lead to procreation. In having monkeys.

Have an attractive body language using six body gestures

The word attraction comes from the verb attract, which according to the real Spanish academy means ‘to gain the will, affection, taste or attention of another person’.

And while it is true that the attraction goes far beyond appearances and physical, between two strangers who have not engaged in conversation, everything starts with what you see. With that first impression that is generated in a few seconds and that is completely linked to attractive body language.

Here I show you six gestures of attractive body language that will make you a more charismatic and influential person.

• Shows the open torso

The open torso shows availability. Not necessarily sexual, but also social. He says that you feel confident, because you openly show your vulnerable vital organs, which are those that are not protected by bones.

By doing so, you send a meta message that says, ‘I feel comfortable, you can feel comfortable too.’

On the other hand, crossing one’s arms is equivalent to putting a barrier between one and the other person. It shows that you are closed, that you are not interested in the other person, that you are not available, that you do not feel safe.

• Show the palms of your hands

The hands have always shown our intentions. If someone came with a rock in his hand, there were chances he had intentions of attacking. On the other hand, with hands free of objects, it was normal for them to come in peace.

Hence, in many cultures we salute by shaking hands. It shows that we come with good intentions.

Although today we do not consciously think about whether the other person is going to attack us or not, we react better when we see each other’s hands than when we do not.

A study conducted by Vanessa Van Edwards revealed that in the most popular TED talks, all with more than 7 million views, the speakers made an average of 465 hand gestures in the 18 minutes, some even 600. that the least popular, with little more than 100,000 views, the average hand gestures was 272.

What does this show? That the gestures of the hands bring us closer to others.

• Maintain eye contact

They say that the eyes are the windows of the soul. Cliché or not, we connect with others through visual contact because it shows interest in the other person, that we trust in ourselves and that we are transparent.

On the other hand, avoiding the gaze of the people shows the opposite: lack of interest, insecurity and little transparency.

It is not about fixing your eyes on the other person without taking your eyes off them. That’s weird.

It is estimated that the average time of a natural visual contact in a conversation is 61%.

Do not count the minutes. But do have the intention to look at the other person in the eyes as a sign of interest, knowing that it is normal to look away from time to time.

• Smile

I receive constant comments from people who do not favor the smile. They say it shows insecurity or falsehood and generates distrust. In fact, many associate leadership with a serious face.

But the same study by Vanessa Van Edwards revealed that the speakers who smiled for at least 14 seconds were rated as smarter than those who smiled less.

The smile about, shows good will and when it is genuine it is contagious and improves the environment.

Whenever it is relevant to what you say, it is better to smile than not.

Make sure your smile is genuine, not only with the mouth, but also with the wrinkles next to the eyes and without tension in the teeth.

• Have an upright posture

In ancient times, stature was associated with status. Hence, the root of both words is the same.

Nowadays it is not necessary to be taller to have more status. With the posture is enough, because a natural upright posture transmits security. And security is attractive.

To have an upright posture, lift the chest and head and pull the shoulders back slightly.

You will transmit greater security and you will feel with better energy because, among other things, it will help you to breathe better.

• Move slowly

People with wandering and repetitive movements show nervousness because their unconscious mind is sending signals to them to run away.

If there is fire it runs. But if you are not in a hurry, moving and even speaking slowly will help you transmit tranquility, security and confidence.